In just a few weeks, I will be teaching the Heroine’s Journey, an ancient organizing framework offering a path through life’s greatest challenges and into your deepest offering as a feminine being. This course reimagines the hero’s journey through the lens of the feminine, and offers a radical new view of personal fulfillment, romantic love, and visionary leadership.
What moves a woman along her journey? Her desire.
What is a desire?
A desire is tethered to your deep soul’s purpose. When lived as a moving prayer, it can deepen your spirituality, initiating you into your wholeness, creativity, and power as a woman.
A desire is different than an impulse. An impulse comes from your dark side. Impulses are knee-jerk reactions that often come from fear or discomfort because you cannot tolerate a greater level of pleasure, fulfillment, intimacy, or stability.
Desires are the interface between you and that which is greater than you. A desire calls you towards greater degrees of pleasure, fulfillment, intimacy or stability. They compel you to risk way past the familiar, whereas an impulse will keep you in your comfort zone, even if you want to move past it. Desires are the necessary force to engage a grand wresting match with your destructive impulses that would have you living a life of confusion, disillusion, and despair.
A desire can be a stirring, a call, or a discomfort that causes you to imagine beyond the conditions or limitations of your life. You feel a longing that acts like a cord pulling you to a yet to be revealed destination. It is born from your appetite to live more fully and experience your life more profoundly. It invites you to be bigger in some way whether it is to a partner in love, to set up and own a home, to step up in your career, to have a child. Whatever your desire is, it expands who you are.
Taking pleasure from your desire will keep you in the game of conjuring and cocreating with the universe. It is a call and response. You call with your pleasure-filled longing, and the universe responds. When you take delight in your desire, you open, surrender, and connect to its potential.
We are never taught this in our culture. Nope, not ever. Instead, we are taught to have it our way right now, and if we don’t get it, we get mad! We can become fixated on a desire, and soon feel our life is not complete without it.
This leads to a feeling of scarcity, lack, disappointment, and desperation. A negative emotional spiral spins, leaving you feeling unhappy and neglected by your desire and often by the universe itself. This is why people overeat, drink, work too much, and buy more stuff to try and fill a pervasive sense of emptiness.
We have no positive relationship to longing. It is a lost spiritual practice. We only want what we want, when we want it.
“Initiated men and women do not chase what they desire. They marry what they follow, and raise up what they love.”
One of the most important distinctions that separates a heroine from the rest of our instant gratification society is that she knows how to take her pleasure from her longing.
The heroine in you recognizes that life isn’t about having it all or doing it all; rather, it is about being filled to overflowing satisfaction by the sheer desire that you feel for whatever you are attracted to.
A desire is an impulse, a call that can remake you; therefore, as a heroine, you surrender to the chaos that a desire can bring to your life. Do you remember the old adage “be careful what you wish for, you just might get it”? I’m convinced a heroine said that!
Focus on the sensation of your desire, and resist getting stuck on the picture of what you think it should look like. Your desire may come to you in a dramatically different form in the end.
By taking your pleasure from your longing, you open up the possibilities for greater aspects of your true desire, the one buried underneath what you are currently aware of, to surface. Sometimes your desire gets met right away, and you have total control over it happening. Others, the larger appetites of your hungry soul take you on a journey to a destination you can’t even imagine in a time frame that is beyond the clock on the wall.
By staying relaxed and in the current of the desire’s “becoming,” you allow yourself to be remade by your longing, and do not “miss” the unexpected and unimagined outcomes that occur.
What desire is remaking you today?
In psyche and spirit,